Belly Loss 4 Habits Workshop


Reduce Belly Fat, Enhance Immunity, Enjoy Vibrant Health

This workshop has been held many times since its inception in July 2020. It’s based along the lines of Mr. Gopalakrishnan’s Binge Marketing with a few twists and unique additional features.

The Backdrop of Serene Wellness

Author of “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas” is Healer Naseem Mariam. She had submitted her thesis for Ph.D. Acupuncture in 2013-2914. But the Degree certificate was lost in the Chennai floods. At the time the book had gone to print in Sep 2018, the 2nd copy of the Ph.D. certificate had not yet reached her. So “Serene Wellness” had to have her name as “Healer” Naseem Mariam on the cover.

Subsequently, the fresh copy of her Ph.D. Acupuncture Degree did arrive from The Open International University for Complementary Medicines, Colombo, Sri Lanka.

The first book was a Blueprint of Serene Wellness in 7 Areas, the first is Physical Vitality. Physical Vitality means a person is in Vibrant Health. In order to achieve Vibrant Health, the first step is to get rid of and keep Belly Fat away. Visceral fat has many disadvantages.

Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R Vibrant Health

1 in 4 Indian women aged 25+ is obese. As a young adult, Belly Fat often leads to irregular periods, hormonal imbalances, thyroid issues, PCOS, and difficulty in getting pregnant. Every girl has the innate capability of being fertile and bearing a child, but lifestyle habits have led to excess visceral (abdominal) fat and reduced her chances of becoming a mother naturally.

As a working mother with young children, often working full-time career with the stress of work-life balance, the Indian young mothers aged 35 to 45 years have little or no time to take care of their own health.

“Belly Loss Blueprint – Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” by Dr. Naseem Mariam

My ideal client is a 40+ corporate executive over-worked stressed out balancing office pressures and the home front where she is a caregiver to aged parents and teenage children. At the office, she is a powerhouse of authority, respect, and command. Yet, once she enters her home, the people she cares for – and would die for – treat her as a “resource”. She feels ignored, unappreciated and no one in her first circle thinks of HER emotional, physical, or psychological needs. Just because she always does what is needed, is trustworthy, reliable and a wall of strength in a crisis, people around her forget that she is human too. UNTIL the crash … 
It is to avoid just such a crash that she looks forward to my coaching.

The 3 qualities my ideal client embodies are Trust, Power, and Grace. She just needs to exercise them consistently in all 7 Areas of her life. Being her authentic self, she heals and there is peace manifested, love expressed, and joy shared wherever she goes.

That’s the story of myself ten years ago … until I found the 2 Enablers: Natural Acupuncture Therapies and Ancient Healing Secrets. Healing myself from within and creating harmony with integrity of character in all Arenas of Life turned me from a silent, passive-aggressive doormat at home to a supportive, assertive Healer and Coach. 

The book “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” by Dr. Naseem Mariam, Ph.D. (Acu) deals with 4 simple lifestyle habits necessary and sufficient to Reduce Belly Fat, Enhance Immunity and Pulsate with Joy, Energy, and Positive Vibrations. NEAR is an acronym for
N Natural Nutrition
E Easy Exercises
An Attractive Attitude, and
R Rejuvenating Rest.

“Belly Loss 4 Habits: Workbook for Vibrant Health” is Born

Some books write themselves and “Belly Loss 4 Habits: Workbook for Vibrant Health” is an example. One crazy weekend, while attending a virtual seminar on Binge Marketing conducted by Mr. Gopalakrishnan of #dmc, #dmbchennai one of the 9 Digital Masters of Digital Masters Boot camp, I was reckless enough to accept his challenge and agree to conduct a 5-day workshop using WhatsApp, video lessons and Zoom calls. I did that because I finally saw the dots connect in front of my eyes and saw the full flow from the time the workshop is announced till the time the testimonials are received for a workshop with transformational results for each participant.

Belly Loss Habits: Workbook for Vibrant Health

Now the training material did not exist. I had 5 days before the coming Monday when I had promised TEN people (all attendees from the Binge Marketing seminar) that they would get a taste of Vibrant Health during my workshop. As I mentioned in my article “4 ways to become a Smart Prosperous Expert“, all the workbook needed from me was: Discipline + Skill + Market need.

The workbook got an Introduction explaining the concept and what was expected of the participant. 4 Chapters one for each Habit. Each chapter also had tips from the 2 Enablers: Acupressure routines, Essential Oils and Home remedies.

Next, I wanted to be sure that I addressed all the health concerns of each individual attending the workshop. So I needed a survey. I had used during my earlier Digital Marketing days of 2001-2004. So that was a natural choice for me.

Created a 4 question Healthy Habits Evaluation Quiz with simple questions:
1. Gender
2. Age in any one of 4 groups (15-25, 25-35, 35-50, 50+)
3. Health Issues {5 suggestions and one Other} and
4. When would they declare the workshop as a success {4 suggestions and one Other}

I have since then created a copy of that survey for anyone at Healthy Habits Evaluation – Awesome Influencers. All visitors are welcome to take this quiz.

Here are the Statistics as on 10-Oct-2020 of data given by the 29 participants of 4 batches of the workshop:

Belly Loss Blueprint and Habits Workbook

Core Values of the Belly Loss Oaks & Olives Tribe

Core Value 1: TRUST means dependable, reliable, will be steadfast to any promise given, always punctual to appointments. Alignment of thoughts, words, and deeds. Integrity. This has the color blue. While shopping for clothes, my eyes naturally admire outfits in sky blue combined with light pink.

Core Value 2: POWER is part and parcel of every woman as a creation of the Almighty. In order to keep her family running smoothly, she is a tigress with full power, courage, and resilience to face any situation with calmness and serenity. I love the color purple which is associated with power.

Core Value 3: GRACE and gratitude. A female must be a lady full of Grace and Inner Beauty. The color that attracts me is pink, the color of grace and beauty. My late mother Mrs. Qamar Usmani was the epitome of Grace and Serene Beauty. I wish to emulate her.

Do leave your comments and feedback, DM me at @naseemmacu on IG or Twitter to inquire about the next workshop scheduled

About the author: Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) loves to heal people. Her mission is to help super-busy over-worked housewives maintain health and agility with custom-designed acupressure routines. She has cured 1000+ ladies in the past 10 years, and they now perform at their best mentally and physically.

As a freelancer, her areas of expertise are Content writing, Testing & Project Management consultancy esp. to align a company’s Mission, Vision, and Strategy to their systems design. Her first career for 24 yrs., was in the IT industry testing systems, in-house Faculty & Project Management. Author of articles books on Health Wellness and Lifestyle since 2001. Blogs:, Visit IG, Twitter @naseemmacu for health tips.

Health Awareness is a must for Indians

Top 10 causes of Death Worldwide 2015 (WHO)

Health is an important aspect of life. A sound mind in a sound body is required to face the challenges and stress of the modern world.

However, most people are so busy in their pursuit of money that they abuse their body and mind … in their most productive years of 45+, they now start spending their amassed money on health care …

Prevention is better than reaction

A stitch in time saves nine. We need to spread awareness of simple health habits … and discipline of daily exercise, eating and sleep habits … which are mandatory to avoid waste of hard-earned money on medical expenses & services.

Moreover, most Indians have inadequate medical insurance coverage; the majority have medical insurance that is linked with their jobs …

The Good News

  • Life expectancy today is 67 years. In 1951, it was 36.7 years
  • The birth rate was 0.8 per 1000 in 1951; it is now around 25.5
  • The infant mortality rate was 146 per 1000 in 1951; it is now below 70
  • A majority of infectious diseases have been or are close to being eradicated

Health Statistics

Non-communicable diseases (NCD), principally cardiovascular diseases, diabetes, cancers, and chronic respiratory diseases, caused an estimated 35 million deaths in 2005. This figure represents 60% of all deaths globally, with 80% of deaths due to non-communicable diseases occurring in low- and middle-income countries, and approximately 16 million deaths involving people under 70 years of age. Total deaths from non-communicable diseases are projected to increase by a further 17% over the next 10 years.

These diseases are preventable. Up to 80% of heart disease, stroke, and type 2 diabetes and over a third of cancers could be prevented by eliminating shared risk factors, mainly tobacco use, unhealthy diet, physical inactivity and the harmful use of alcohol.

Unless addressed, the mortality and disease burden from these health problems will continue to increase. WHO projects that, globally, NCD deaths will increase by 17% over the next ten years? The greatest increase will be seen in the African region (27%) and the Eastern Mediterranean region (25%). The highest absolute number of deaths will occur in the Western Pacific and South-East Asia regions.

GOAL of Health Awareness

Prevent and Control Cardiovascular Diseases, Cancers, Chronic Respiratory Diseases and Diabetes

“2008-2013 Action Plan for the Global Strategy for the Prevention and Control of Non-communicable Diseases” by Dr Ala Alwan, Assistant Director-General Non-Communicable Diseases and Mental Health, World Health Organization. Also mentioned in Healthline

4 Diseases, 4 Modifiable Shared Risk Factors

People who die prematurely from noncommunicable diseases die from preventable heart disease, strokes, diabetes, cancers and asthma as a result of increased levels of exposure to tobacco use, unhealthy diets, physical inactivity and the harmful use of alcohol; and ineffective and inequitable health care services for people with noncommunicable diseases.

Non Communicable Diseases

Today, almost 75% of all NCD deaths occur in lower-income countries. India, for example, reported over 72 million cases of diabetes in 2017. It is also the country with the highest diabetes rate worldwide. Back in 1990, 15 out of every 100,000 Indian citizens died of diabetes. Today, this number has increased to 26 out of every 100,000 citizens. In comparison, Japan – a high-income country – had a decrease in the number of its population dying from diabetes, with a reduction of 8 to 7 per 100,000 citizens during the same period. ~  Fighting the world’s biggest killer

The Bad News

  • Every sixth person who dies in the world is an Indian
  • By 2010, 60% of the world’s Cardiac patients will be Indian
  • Every fourth Diabetic in the world is Indian
  • Indian teens have the world’s highest suicide rate
  • India has the highest number of people living with HIV/AIDS
  • The frenetic pace of urban life has brought affluence & a better quality of life for Indians but also a destructive lifestyle has led to a host of medical crises – all lifestyle-related disorders and diseases:
    • sexual problems from over-performance at work and no time for family life
    • stress, mid-life crises, nervous disorders
    • hypertension
    • obesity
    • cardiac disease
    • diabetes
  • A 2002 national survey in India found that
    • One in 3 teenagers had bad eyesight
    • 30% had decaying teeth
    • 17% of the country’s 250 million adolescents were overweight
    • One in every 5 teens had stress-related emotional disorders
    • With 120 million urban Indians are seriously obese ranks India among the TOP 10obese nations in the world
    • 70% of the Diabetes in India is obesity-related

The Remedy – Health Care Industry

  • India’s healthcare system is comparatively low cost.
  • The healthcare industry is at Rs. 93,000 crores and growing at 13% annually
  • Easy access to health clubs, gyms, health foods, fitness equipment, spas, slimming centres, range of pharmaceuticals and products geared to a healthy lifestyle
  • The fitness equipment industry grows at a robust 50% annually
  • The nutraceuticals industry (everything from multi-vitamins, diet supplements, sugar substitutes, low-fat foods) was worth Rs. 30,000 Crores and growing

Article: “Body of Evidence” by Dilip Bobb in Your Guide to Good Health special edition from India Today Sep 18, 2006



Key Facts

  • India has 41 Million diabetics. It could rise to 70 Million by 2025
  • Diabetes is the fastest-growing disease in the world, with 230 Million people already affected
  • Diabetes is the world’s leading cause of heart disease, stroke, blindness, kidney disease and lower limb amputation
  • The incidence of Diabetes is FIVE times higher among Asians than it is in white population
  • By 2025, every 5thdiabetic would be Indian

Can Diabetes be cured?

  • For Type 1 Diabetes, Emphasis is on halting the disease in newly diagnosed cases by modulating the immune system so it doesn’t progress to the ultimate destruction of the pancreas.
  • Another tack is to try to recreate the body’s ability to manufacture insulin by transplanting the pancreas or insulin-producing cells.
  • Stem cell research offers hope too.
  • For type 2 diabetes, public health messages promoting weight loss and exercise seems the best way to stop the disorder.
  • International studies have shown weight loss of just 5-7%and exercising for 30 minutes five time a week lowers the risk of developing diabetes by a huge 60%

Article: “Diabetes Unravelled” by Aarti Narang in Readers Digest Nov 2008


Key Facts

  • About 150 Million Indians are obese which is 15% of the country’s total population
  • A study conducted by the Obesity Surgery Society of India in leading public schools across the country shows that 30% of students are obese
  • Women are particularly prone to obesity
  • The AIIMS study on Obesity, Diabetes and Heart Disease 2002-2005 showed that nearly 50% of urban women above 25 have unhealthy body shapes
  • Experts say one of the causes of obesity in women is mental stress due to which they keep munching on food to find solace
  • If a person’s BMI is above 30 then he is obese, while BMI over 25 is a sign of overweight and a BMI of over 35 indicates morbid obesity

Article: “Cutting out the Flab” by Malini Bhupta in Your Guide to good Health – special edition from India today Sep 18, 2006



The principal environmental problems emerging in relation to cancers in Europe are the impact of smoking and poor vegetable and fruit intake. It has been estimated that doubling the fruit and vegetable intake in most parts of Europe would reduce epithelial cancers (e.g. of the pancreas, stomach, larynx, mouth, oesophagus, lung, bladder, colon-rectum, breast and prostate) by a third.

Evidence is accumulating of the subtle gene changes during the development of cancer and emerging evidence shows how both smoking and inadequate diets amplify the chances of gene instability and therefore of the cumulative genetic damage which is so conducive to the age-dependent development of cancers.

“Diet. The neglected basis for public health problems in Europe” by Professor W.P.T. James, Chairman, International Obesity Task Force, United Kingdom (Former Director of the Rowett Research Institute, Aberdeen, Scotland)


Every year, about 12 million people throughout the world die of a heart attack or a stroke.

Research shows that a number of things make us more likely to have a heart attack or stroke. These are called risk factors. Some risk factors are linked to the choices we make in the way we live. The three most important lifestyle factors are:

  • smoking and other tobacco use;
  • unhealthy diet; and
  • lack of physical activity.

Poor lifestyle choices can lead to three serious physical problems:

  • high blood pressure (hypertension);
  • high blood sugar (diabetes);
  • high blood fats (hyperlipidaemia).

Tips for reducing your risk

There is so much that you can do to reduce the risk of heart attack and stroke for you and your family. Start by making some healthy lifestyle choices:

  • If you smoke or use tobacco, quit. Avoid inhaling smoke from other people’s cigarettes.
  • Spend 30 minutes a day doing something active, like walking, gardening, or housework.
  • Eat 5 servings of fruit and vegetables each day.
  • Limit the salt, fat, and sugar in your diet.
  • Once a year, ask your doctor to check your weight, BP, blood fats and blood sugar.
  • Encourage your family members and others to change their lifestyles.

“Avoiding Heart Attacks and Strokes” WHO Library Cataloguing-in-Publication Data



Physical inactivity: There is remarkably coherent evidence that obesity, diabetes, CVD and several cancers can be substantially limited by enhancing physical activity levels. We have to reorganize our school curriculum, our road systems, our traffic policies, the provision of pedestrian precincts in town planning and the involvement of public health strategists with local government planning, so that individuals are automatically involved in physical activity as part of their everyday existence. It is a mistake to assume that one can persuade the whole population to simply exercise at weekends.

“Diet. The neglected basis for public health problems in Europe” by Professor W.P.T. James, Chairman, International Obesity Task Force, United Kingdom (Former Director of the Rowett Research Institute, Aberdeen, Scotland)

Health benefits of physical activity

Physical activity is probably one of public health’s “best buys” (13), having the following benefits:

Ø a 50% reduction in the risk of developing coronary heart disease (14), non-insulin-dependent diabetes and obesity;

Ø a 30% reduction in the risk of developing hypertension (15,16);

Ø a decline in blood pressure among hypertensive people;

Ø helping to maintain bone mass and thus protecting against osteoporosis (17);

Ø improving balance, coordination, mobility, strength and endurance (18,19); and

Ø increasing self-esteem, reducing levels of mild to moderate hypertension (20) and

Ø promoting overall psychological wellbeing (21).

For physical activity, it is recommended that individuals engage in adequate levels throughout their lives. Different types and amounts of physical activity are required for different health outcomes: at least 30 minutes of regular, moderate-intensity physical activity on most days reduces the risk of cardiovascular disease and diabetes, colon cancer and breast cancer. Muscle strengthening and balance training can reduce falls and increase functional status among older adults. More activity may be required for weight control.

WHO Global Strategy on Diet, Physical Activity and Health, The Fifty-seventh World Health Assembly

Overall physical inactivity is estimated to cause 1.9 million deaths globally. Physical inactivity causes globally, about 10-16% of cases each of breast cancer, colon and rectal cancers and diabetes mellitus, and about 22% of ischaemic heart disease. The risk of getting a cardiovascular disease increases up to 1.5 times in people who do not follow minimum physical activity recommendations.

Prevention of these diseases through physical activity and healthy lifestyles, based on strong medical evidence, is the most cost-effective and sustainable way to tackle these problems and to support positive social development.

Worldwide, more than 60% of adults do not engage insufficient levels of physical activity which are beneficial to their health. Physical inactivity is more prevalent among women, older adults, individuals from low socio-economic groups, and the disabled. Regular physical activity, active play and sports can be a practical means to achieving numerous health gains, either directly or indirectly through its positive impact on other major risks, in particular high blood pressure, high cholesterol, obesity, tobacco use and stress.

Benefits of Regular physical activity

  • reduces the risk of dying prematurely
  • reduces the risk of dying from heart disease or stroke, which are responsible for one-third of all deaths
  • reduces the risk of developing heart disease, colon cancer and type 2 diabetes
  • helps to prevent/reduce hypertension, which affects one-fifth of the world’s adult population
  • helps control weight and lower the risk of becoming obese
  • helps to prevent/reduce osteoporosis, reducing the risk of hip fracture in women
  • reduces the risk of developing lower back pain can help in the management of painful conditions, like back pain or knee pain
  • helps build and maintain healthy bones, muscles, and joints and makes people with chronic, disabling conditions improve their stamina
  • promotes psychological well-being, reduces stress, anxiety and depression
  • helps prevent or control risky behaviours, especially among children and young people, like tobacco, alcohol or other substance use, unhealthy diet or violence



There is a vast volume of scientific evidence highlighting the importance of applying a life-course approach to the prevention and control of chronic disease. From the available evidence, it is possible to state the following:

Ø Unhealthy diets, physical inactivity and smoking are confirmed risk behaviours for chronic diseases.

Ø The biological risk factors of hypertension, obesity and lipidaemia are firmly established as risk factors for coronary heart disease, stroke and diabetes.

Ø Nutrients and physical activity influence gene expression and may define susceptibility.

Ø The major biological and behavioural risk factors emerge and act in early life, and continue to have a negative impact throughout the life course.

Ø The major biological risk factors can continue to affect the health of the next generation.

Ø An adequate and appropriate postnatal nutritional environment is important.

Ø Globally, trends in the prevalence of many risk factors are upwards, especially those for obesity, physical inactivity and, in the developing world particularly, smoking.

Ø Selected interventions are effective but must extend beyond individual risk factors and continue throughout the life course.

Ø Some preventive interventions early in the life course offer lifelong benefits.

Ø Improving diets and increasing levels of physical activity in adults and older people will reduce chronic disease risks for death and disability.

Ø Secondary prevention through diet and physical activity is a complementary strategy in retarding the progression of existing chronic diseases and decreasing mortality and the disease burden from such diseases.

For example, it has been demonstrated that improved lifestyles can reduce the risk of progression to diabetes by a striking 58% over 4 years (133, 134). Other population studies have shown that up to 80% of cases of coronary heart disease, and up to 90%

of cases of type 2 diabetes, could potentially be avoided through changing lifestyle factors, and about one-third of cancers could be avoided by eating healthily, maintaining a normal weight and exercising throughout life.

For diet, recommendations for populations and individuals should include the following:

Ø achieve energy balance and a healthy weight

Ø limit energy intake from total fats and shift fat consumption away from saturated fats to unsaturated fats and towards the elimination of trans-fatty acids

Ø increase consumption of fruits and vegetables, and legumes, whole grains and nuts

Ø limit the intake of free sugars

Ø limit salt (sodium) consumption from all sources and ensure that salt is iodized.

WHO Global Strategy on Diet, Physical Activity and Health, The Fifty-seventh World Health Assembly

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    15. FAGARD, R.H. Physical fitness and blood pressure. Journal of hypertension11 (suppl 5): S47–S52 (1994).
    16. FAGARD, R.H. & TIPTON, C.M. Physical activity, fitness and hypertension. In: Bouchard, C. et al., ed. Physical activity, fitness and health: international proceedings and consensus statement. Champaign, IL, Human Kinetics Publishers, 1994.
    17. WOLMAN, R. Osteoporosis and exercise. BMJ309: 400–403 (1994).
    18. DRINKWATER, B. Physical activity, fitness and osteoporosis. In: Bouchard, C. et al., ed. Physical activity, fitness and health: international proceedings and consensus statement. Champaign, IL, Human Kinetics Publishers, 1994.
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About the Author: Dr Naseem Mariam PhD (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an ebook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

Mentors: why you need one

What is a Mentor? Is he a guru, a grandfather/ grandmother – figure, a father / mother-figure, a guardian, a friend, a confidant? All these and more. The main duty of a Mentor is to ensure that we execute and accomplish the promises we made to ourselves and our families. The Mentor benefits intangible ways: with the blessings of Almighty on him. “Men are rich only as they give. He who gives great service gets great rewards” ~ Elbert Hubbard.

What does an adult need to promise his family: To his parents, he needs to promise to be there for them in physical and financial support when they age, to children he needs to promise to share their triumphs and trials, to attend their celebrations, and matches … to be there for them in the evenings and share family time, to provide them with a secure atmosphere filled with great values, to their spouse they must promise a few romantic evenings every week, great fully free vacations with no financial tensions.

The greatest gift that they can plan and work for, however, is to ensure that even if they are no longer around, their family – aged parents, spouse, and children – will be well taken care of financially and that they would be able to maintain at least 60% of their current lifestyle.

In today’s complex world filled with job insecurity, life insecurity, and stressful hurly-burly life … most of us find that we are not able to think of making the above mentioned bare essential life promises.

With respect to Job security, there is no need to elaborate much, as we have seen a huge share of the media devoted to the effects of the recession. Add to that the fact that inflation eats into our regular income … for those who are lucky enough to still retain their jobs. Not much leftover to keep aside … even if u kept money in the bank, looking at the rate the inflation rises, the money in the bank will not suffice …

With respect to life security, we know (refer to my blog “Health awareness is a must for all Indians”) that Indians are really suffering from lifestyle changes … with diseases and disorders. Can u count the number of people in your circle of contacts who have had someone in the family die of cancer, of sudden heart attack … without any life insurance coverage to help their family.

How many have fallen ill and had to spend all their meager savings to get well … or at least try to recover life back to the same “healthy” levels as before … without any medical insurance.

Mentorship and Mentors Roles

Why will adults remain adamant and NOT avail of the tools of modern life: life insurance, ULIPS and medical insurance? When they know that these would benefit their loved ones … or is it that adults and bread-earners of the house-holds become self-focused and selfish?

In such a scenario, if anyone adult or teenager wishes to take good care of his parents, spouse and children … and then also have money for charity, he needs a Mentor desperately. The Mentor will help him plan his financial goals, guide him on how to achieve the goals and monitor, track the progress, help him with income generation methodologies and ensure that the adult achieves what goals he sets.

The Mentor will not execute the plan of action … he will only suggest, guide, and help … maybe even share the workload of the Action … the adult however must give his 25 to 30% minimum effort.

Do you want to meet such service-minded Mentors, who are themselves very successful entrepreneurs, and who are looking to train others to take great care of their families … by increasing your income levels through a spare-time entrepreneurship program?

Meet mentors ready to guide, train, and help u succeed. Interested in health, wealth & time abundance for yourself and your family? Want to have your own biz with free help and guidance of successful people? Come become a GIGster at

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About the Author: Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an ebook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

My take on: Perception and Perspective

Perception is what you see with the eyes whereas perspective is what you conclude with your mind, emotions, feelings and soul. Perceptions are usually used with respect to the external objects whereas perspective is with respect to cultures, people, situations and your viewpoint about them.

Sometimes skewed perceptions can lead to faulty deductions, conclusions and wrong perceptive. You become what you think about and your perspectives define how you respond and soon your perspectives will be who you are.

Perception as a noun means:
· the act or faculty of apprehending by means of the senses or of the mind; cognition; understanding.
· immediate or intuitive recognition or appreciation, as of moral, psychological, or aesthetic qualities; insight; intuition; discernment: an artist of rare perception.
· the result or product of seeing / perceiving, as distinguished from the act of perceiving; percept.
· Psychology. A single unified awareness derived from sensory processes while a stimulus is present.
· Law. The taking into possession of rents, crops, profits, etc.

Actually, it is what you see. There are many examples of optical illusions to prove that what you see and/or perceive may not always be what is actually there. Sometimes there are 2 images hidden within one image; many objects hidden all over a picture which u may not perceive at the first glance. Is it an old lady or a young girl? Frog or banana? Crooked lines or parallel? Moving circles or stationary ones?

It is one of the commonest of mistakes to consider that the limit of our power of perception is also the limit of all there is to perceive. ~ C. W. Leadbeater. Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world. ~ Hans Margolius. People only see what they are prepared to see. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

What the caterpillar calls the end, the rest of the world calls a butterfly. ~ Lao Tzu

The perfect no-stress environment is the grave. When we change our perception, we gain control. The stress becomes a challenge, not a threat. When we commit to action, to actually doing something rather than feeling trapped by events, the stress in our life becomes manageable. ~ Greg Anderson. There is no truth. There is only perception.  ~ Gustave Flaubert. Generally, about all perception, we can say that a sense is what has the power of receiving into itself the sensible forms of things without the matter, in the way in which a piece of wax takes on the impress of a signet ring without the iron or gold. ~ Aristotle.

Perception deals with mostly what the eyes see; and deals with mere objects. Perspectives deal with events, our reactions to them. Thus, mistakes of perception are not as harmful as those of perspective. Perspective deals with the full range of thoughts, emotions, feelings, prior experience, culture attitudes and conditioning that a person brings towards the events that happen in their lives. It deals with our attitudes, our beliefs and our interpretations to what we have perceived: over the years we build up these perspectives – nearly unconscious assumptions that we often make; and this hinders our objective analysis of new situations.

Perspective may mean: is a point of view; this is defined by the earlier experiences, the emotions, the feelings and the entire backlog with respect to this current event. Different people have a different perspective (way of understanding, thinking about and dealing with) the same set of circumstances.

Literally, in visual topics:
• Perspective (visual), the way in which objects appear to the eye. A view or vista.
• Perspective (graphical), representing the effects of visual perspective in drawings. The relationship of aspects of a subject to each other and to a whole: a perspective of history; a need to view the problem from the proper perspective. The appearance of objects in depth as perceived by normal binocular vision. The technique of representing three-dimensional objects and depth relationships on a two-dimensional surface.

Metaphorically, in relation to cognitive topics:
• Perspective (cognitive), one’s “point of view”, the choice of a context for opinions, beliefs and experiences. Subjective evaluation of relative significance; a point of view: the perspective of the displaced homemaker.
• Point of view (literature), the related experience of the narrator
• Perspective (psychological), or wisdom: The ability to perceive things in their actual interrelations or comparative importance: tried to keep my perspective throughout the crisis.
• A mental view or outlook: “It is useful occasionally to look at the past to gain a perspective on the present” (Fabian Linden). The relationship of aspects of a subject to each other and to a whole: a perspective of history; a need to view the problem from the proper perspective.

Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth. ~ Marcus Aurelius. In order to keep a true perspective of one’s importance, everyone should have a dog that will worship him and a cat that will ignore him. ~ Anonymous.

Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat and worry with laughter at your predicaments, thus, freeing your mind to think clearly toward the solution that is certain to come. Never take yourself too seriously. ~ Og Mandino.

Meditation and wisdom, maturity with respect to emotions and behaviour helps in an objective perspective or gives us the ability to see a bigger picture … in which the success or failure which now confronts us is a mere speck in the collage of our life. Struggles and obstacles are Gods Blessings on us thru which He moulds and shapes us to better fit the purpose for which God had created us.

Meditation is the soul’s perspective glass. ~ Owen Felltham. Wisdom is your perspective on life, your sense of balance, your understanding of how the various parts and principles apply and relate to each other. It embraces judgment, discernment, comprehension. It is a gestalt or oneness, and integrated wholeness.
~ Stephen Covey.

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About the Author: Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an eBook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

The Pot of Gold

Once upon a time there was a young boy. He rushed from one rainbow to another searching for a pot of gold at the end of every pretty rainbow. He could not get proper guidance from anyone in his great quest for gold.

Finally. he got tired of being adventures and agreed to do what his fore-fathers had done. He agreed to take up his father’s profession. He started to beg seated on a box.

One day a passer-by asked him: “What is inside the box on which you are seated?” The beggar replied: “I don’t know. I have never opened the box. My father has sat on this box and begged. My grandfather too had sat on this same box and begged. So, I am continuing their tradition … and doing exactly as I had seen them do.”

Now the passer-by probed and insisted that the beggar must open the box at once and satisfy his curiosity … about the contents of the box on which he was seated. This insistence and questioning attitude of the passer-by tickled and activated the inherent curiosity of the beggar. So, he listened to the voice of the passer-by and opened the box.

Lo and behold! The box was filled with gold coins. The grandfather of the beggar had sat on the box begging … and had lived and died as a beggar. The father of the beggar had sat on the box begging … and had lived and died as a beggar. The tradition of poverty, begging and suffering, worry had all been handed down from one generation to the other … with an unnecessary amount of pain, worry and suffering.

Why did no one in the beggar’s family think of opening the box? Actually, that is human nature and obeys Newton’s Law: “A body at rest will continue to be at rest” … what is the rest of that law? “… unless it is acted upon by an external force. After which the body will start its motion and will remain in motion …. Once again until it is acted upon by an external force … very powerful law …

What does the box of gold coins have to do with us? The passer-by? The Newton’s Law?
Each one of us has within us as a God-given gift all that we need to create for ourselves the most beautiful lives that we can imagine. Dreams are given to us to wake us up and work towards accomplishing what we had visualized.

However, like the beggar, we get caught in the invisible mind programming and follow the examples of our father and grandfather without questioning whether times have changed and should we not change what we do … too?

It is true that each of us needs a passer-by, a Mentor in our lives, who will ask us the right questions, give us no “right” answers, make us seek our own answers, stay at our side and be patient with us … Mentors who will “edu-care” us … draw forth from within us the gifts, talents and leadership qualities and inborn qualities that God gave us … together with training us to inculcate winners’ habits. Mentors who will remain with us through thick and thin, through good times and bad … until we open our box of gold coins.

In days gone by India was famous for its gurukuls where the Gurus did just the above Edu-caring … not modern education which gives all the “right” answers and makes us into robots for the factory of rich employers … but the real edu-care and drawing forth from within great leadership qualities and success principles to lead a simple, good life with great peace of mind, lots of free time, good health and great wealth.

Now the Newton’s Law: When you start something good under the guidance of a great Mentor, you will continue to grow and progress … till u allow external (negative) forces to stop your progress. Life is simple but not easy. Be patient for 3 to 5 years as opening yourself is not an easy task: because the enemy is within … and the greatest obstacle to your progress is … you got it … YOU!

Keep smiling. Have hope. Trust your Guru and Mentor: allow yourself the time you need to listen, learn, edu-care and grow wealthy with respect to free time, better health and dream-like income streams.

Life is great fun and the learning by doing experimenting and making mistakes under the sharp eyes of the team of Mentors is very satisfying.

Of course, there is one condition: you must agree to share the knowledge, teachings and good things you acquire with others around you and learn how to become a Mentor yourself. Come join the team of India Gurus and Mentors: age is not a deterrent: as young as 18 years, as old as you are: both are great.

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About the Author: Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an eBook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

How to Regularly Achieve Repeat Success

Success is not a one-time act. You need to repeat one success with a second; and the second with a third … life moves forward and you need the next success to satisfy your growing expectations and desires.

You need to know how to make Success a habit.

Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” ~ Earl Nightingale

Therefore, who succeeds? The only person who succeeds is the person who is progressively realizing a worthy ideal. The person who says, “I’m going to become this”… & then begins to work toward becoming it.

Here are 8 steps to help you realize success as often as you want:

1. See yourself, as you want to be 10 years, 5 years from now. Describe how you will be at end of each year for next 5 years.

This is long-range planning and need not be done too often. Once a year is adequate. Frequently looking at and imagining the long-range future has a tendency to discourage small incremental efforts in the short-term.

The key is to start with a 10-year vision; then the 5-year and work back towards success spot for each year for next 5 years. From the start fix whether you are talking and describing the beginning or end of the year.

Do not mix the 2. If you fix on beginning as your time reference, it should remain beginning for checking status for all the time-slots: day / week / month / year.

Will you evaluate, analyze, consolidate and visualize at the beginning of the day / week / month / year or at the end? Decide this upfront and then stick to it.

I personally prefer to do it at the end so that I can start the next time-slot well prepared but everyone has his or her preferences. Select the one that you tune to but be consistent in all time-slots.

2. Write a description of the person you want to become by calendar year-end: the money, health & relationships you want to have – Act the part — You are that person!

Here I want you to work from a feeling of abundance. I would like you to read & forget about the one paragraph: because if you remember what you should not do you may find yourself doing what you should not do … merely because you are focusing on not doing it!

Often you are told to evaluate where you are and then describe where you want to be … and plan how to get where you want to be. This exercise unfortunately focuses on your lack of something: it reinforces scarcity and the gap discourages you from even taking the first step forward. Read the article “How to Conquer Fear of Success”. Now forget about this paragraph (after you read the article:-)

What you should do is: forget about where you are today. Just describe where you want to be. Make it as wild and ambitious as possible. Think of great people who did just such ‘impossible’ things. Feel that you have already reached your goals: in the areas of money, health and relationships.

Behave, think, feel and act today in the same way that you can see yourself after having accomplished your goals. To learn what makes you tick and how you can gain the skills required to make success a habit, read the article “How to Align Your Goals for Success” and the eBook “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace”

3. Establish definite goals – money, health, relationships Experience the sensation of these goals accomplished.

Whenever you sit down to define your goals remember to work from an abundance mentality. Go ahead stand at the place where you want to be, and define what you have accomplished.

These are the goals that you must plan for now in the present. This exercise will take a lot of time and practice because from childhood our minds have been tuned to work from a scarcity mind-set. Remember your own past accomplishments, remember great men who did ‘impossible’ tasks, history repeats itself: all you need is faith and confidence that you too can repeat history.

Think positive thoughts about yourself. Take total responsibility for your current position. It was your reaction and responses to circumstances that have placed you were you currently are. Learn to change your attitude if need be. Read the article “3 Ways to Help Yourself Towards Success” and receive the free email course “Success comes from Within” with a mail to

4. Look back … from the vantage spot of goals reached.
What have you done to reach that point?
List these activities. Do them.
Who has helped you reach this point?
Request their support. Do as they say.

It is a good idea to prioritize the list of activities and have no more than 3 that are mandatory for the day. In the beginning, define just ONE mandatory activity and complete it. Then move onto 2 and finally 3. In a single day, never ever plan to complete more than 3 mandatory activities.

Classify the activities into 4 Quadrants: Simplicity and Impact. Low Simplicity (i.e. complex, difficult, time-consuming) and Low Impact is Quadrant 1; High Simplicity and Low Impact is Quadrant 2; Low Simplicity and High Impact is Quadrant 3; High Simplicity and High Impact is Quadrant 4.

When you assign priorities, ensure that you give higher priority to Quadrant 4 activities and least to Quadrant 1 activities. Quadrant 2 and 3 you can categorize as you wish: I would prefer to complete the simple activities and get the benefit of even the low impact early on; therefore, I would prefer Quadrant 2 to Quadrant 3 any day. But there is not much to prioritize between Quadrants 2 and 3 really.

While planning for Career Success, here are some tools that will help you create your list of activities: “7 Ways to Reach Success At Any Stage of Your Career”

5. Every day evaluate status, praise yourself; go back to step 4

Planning activities even in the minutest details does not guarantee success. What helps you succeed is keeping track of progress, anticipating possible roadblocks, mitigating them, facing issues head on, and taking necessary corrective actions. You should re-plan every day. Whatever may be the state of your activities, you should praise yourself for at least ONE accomplishment of the day, however small it may be.

6. Every week analyze progress, reward yourself; go back to step 3

The key to praises and rewards is to maintain a Journal of the reasons why you praised yourself daily, why you rewarded yourself every week. Go through this list and I am sure you will be able to justify the celebration recommended in the next step.

As human beings we do have our ups and downs. It is how fast and how well we recover from our downs that determines how fast we progress during our next up cycle. The Journal helps remind us of how good, how great, how unique we are and gets us through the next down phase with greater energy than before.

7. Every month consolidate, celebrate; go back to step 2

Accomplishments have a funny way of getting buried under the debris of day-to-day blunders, mishaps and existences. Celebrate with your support team, your near and dear ones.

The praises you received from others could be passed onto your support team for reinforcements. The rewards that you give yourself can also be shared with those who wish you well. However, it does not matter if you sometimes enjoy praises and rewards with yourself.

However, when it comes to celebration time, it is highly recommended that you gather your support team and friends too. This has the added advantage that you recognize publicly those who have supported and helped you. Your support team meets each other and gels together … and this will help them help you better in the future.

8. Every year take a vacation, visualize; go back to step 1

Often you see things more clearly when you take one step away from the situation. You need to sharpen your axe. You need to get your reinforcements in place.

A vacation away from the nitty-gritty of your goals, your list of activities and your accomplishments is sure to rejuvenate you. Do give yourself a holiday at least once a year for at least 3 consecutive days, preferably a week.

You could do the visualization on the last lap of your vacation after you have refreshed yourself. Remember that on your return from vacation, you should complete your visualization BEFORE you start any other activity … even checking your mails can wait … especially checking your mails.

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About the Author: Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an eBook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

How to Align Your Goals for Success

Ask yourself the question: “Am I committed to my objectives and goals and to my staff?”


Maybe you have not yet defined your personal goals and thus cannot find any reason to achieve the work-place objectives? Are you just drifting along without a rudder and any sense of purpose? If yes, do proceed to the next chapter to learn the importance of setting your goals and how to set achievable, meaningful, clear goals.

If you are reluctant to set off to work, catch yourself procrastinate at work, doing easy jobs instead of the critical, tough ones; if you are unable to make decisions, find it difficult, to be honest in your discussions with your superiors these are all signs that you are de-motivated.

You do not need to consider yourself motivationally challenged. It is within your power to change your attitude about unpleasant tasks, and complete the project and achieve your goals no matter what it is. Using the Seven Happiness Enablers helps you become upbeat, efficient, and effective in all areas of your life.

Listing out your goals in 5 areas — spiritual (inner being), personal (relationships), work-life (profession, career), material (money), and society — as described and then prioritizing the goals, defining an action plan … this list of Goals one motivating source. Your goals are the rudder of your ship as you journey through life.


Next look at values and emotions, at people whom you admire and the values and emotions that they express, and analyze which values and emotions attract you. Some may be easy for you to achieve. Now you should strike a balance between ease and importance. All things that are critical for success are not easy to attain. You must practice “faking” till it becomes a second habit.

Values list – Adventurous, Affectionate, Authoritarian, Caring, Compassionate, Courage, Creative, Critical, Cruel, Dedication, Devotion, Discerning, Encouraging, Esthetics, Enthusiastic, Excellence, Empowerment, Faith, Fairness, Freedom, Friendly, Generous, Giving, Gracious, Health-related, Helpful, Hope, Honesty, Honor, Hostile, Humility, Humor, Independence, Integrity, Intimacy, Kind, Law-abiding, Loyalty, Malleable, Manipulative, Merciful, Nurturing, Patriotic, Peaceful, Permissive, Perseverance, Power, Preservation of Nature, Respect For Elders, Respect for Others, Relationship-oriented, Resilience, Responsibility, Reverence for Life, Righteousness, Risk Taking, Self Respect, Social Harmony, Security, Serving, Spiritual Connection, Social-minded, Supportive, Task-oriented, Thoughtful, Tolerant, Tradition, Trust, Zeal, Zest.

Select your top 5 values from this list. If their meanings seem identical to you like Integrity, Trust club and consider them as one value to live by. Sailors of yore depended on the light of the stars in the heavens to guide them safely on the rough seas. You should make this list of your top 5 values your guiding stars through the journey of life and use this insight to make important decisions especially when the going is tough and you are in troubled waters.


Now choose from the list of positive emotions that you can choose to possess and which will motivate you; give each of the 2 attributes: ease of acquiring and importance for success. Mark them for ease & importance on a scale of 1 to 5. Then order them as per your liking and draw up an action plan to fake them till you acquire them. Remember to define small milestones along the way and reward yourself from time to time.

The word “emotion” is generally misused for feelings and sentiments — in general, for affects. These are, in neurological and physiological terms, no emotions at all.

Aristotle’s Rhetoric has a long list of irascible and concupiscence emotions in pairs, each with its opposites, such as love, hate or joy, and sorrow. Thomas Aquinas in his Summa Theologica adopts a similar listing and grouping. Benedict Spinoza in his Ethics, Book IV presents another list of emotions. We can also find listings of the emotions or passions in Francis Bacon, Thomas Hobbes, and John Locke, and in subsequent writing by British empirical psychologists, David Hume, George Berkeley, and J. S. Mill.

A very short list of emotions is presented in the psychology of William James, where he pays tribute to Professor C. Lange, a Danish physiologist, for his contribution to a theory of emotions that came to be known as the James-Lange theory. The James-Lange theory of emotions applies to the lower animals as well as to human beings, as anyone knows who has observed a hissing and ferocious cat or a frightened rabbit.

Emotions are widespread bodily and visceral changes that are controlled by the sympathetic nervous system. This widespread neurological and physiological commotion includes such things as changes in the respiratory system, pupillary dilation, and electricity in the epidermis, presence of adrenaline in the blood stream, and changes in the pulse. This complex state of changes, occurring simultaneously and accompanied by bodily movements of attack and withdrawal, constitutes an emotion, strictly speaking. Sentiments on the other hand, represent the non-rational aspect of human nature, the aspect of human nature that human beings share with other animals.

Some Emotions are: Ambition, Anger, Anxiety, Appetite, Approval, Avarice, Aversion, Benevolence, Bitterness, Blaming, Calmness, Clemency, Compassion, Condemning, Confidence, Consternation, Contempt, Courage, Courtesy, Cowardice, Criticizing, Cruelty, Daring, Deference, Depression, Derision, Desire, Despair, Devotion, Disappointment, Discouragement, Disdain, Disillusionment, Disparagement, Doubt, Deference, Emulation, Enmity, Envy, Fear, Friendship, Gratitude, Guilt, Hatred, High-mindedness, Honor, Hope, Horror, Humility, Hurt, Impudence, Inclination, Indignation, Infirmity, Injustice, Intemperance, Jealousy, Joy, Kindness, Loneliness, Love, Lust, Luxury, Melancholy, Memory, Merriment, Mirth, Modesty, Pain, Partiality, Pity, Pleasure, Pride, Rage, Regret, Repentance, Revenge, Savageness, Self-Abasement, Self-Approval, Self-Complacency, Self-Rejection, Scorn, Shame, Sin, Stimulation, Stress, Suffering, Sympathy, Thankfulness, Timidity, Unworthiness, Vacillation, Veneration, Wonder, Worry

The Seven Deadly Sins – Pride, Avarice (Greed), Wrath, Gluttony, Envy, Sloth, and Lust – have been considered checkpoints on the road to Hell for centuries. There is a way to combat the Seven Deadly Sins: the Seven Cardinal Virtues. By practicing the Virtue of Humility, you can overcome the Sin of Pride. Patience will quell Wrath and Diligence defeats Sloth. Generosity can tackle Greed and Kindness always beats Envy in the end. Abstinence will save you from Gluttony and Chastity defends against Lust. The Eighth Deadly Sin earlier listed was the unforgivable transgression of sadness. Caring and Serving others helps remove this disease of sadness.

Select the 5 most comfortable positive emotions that you like. These 5 positive emotions will be your compass and guide you on your way through life.

Thus, defining the values, emotions, and goals that are important to us will help us identify what motivates us from within. Once we get a clear picture of these self-motivators, we can then work towards communicating these needs to those around us so that we start getting the external motivators, which will reinforce the inner motivators.


Now in the area of external motivators also we should list out (choose from this list to start with and add your own) all external motivators that we have heard about, read of, that have acted as positive motivators in the past, those that have de-motivated us earlier. Prioritize this list also in our personal order of importance.

Some external motivators are:

Basic Needs At Work – Salary and benefits (basic income, benefits, bonuses, holidays, company car etc) , Working conditions (working hours, workplace layout, facilities and equipment provided for the job), Company policy (formal and informal rules and regulations), Status (determined by the rank, authority and relationship to others — reflecting a level of acceptance), Job Security (degree of confidence he has regarding continued employment in the organization), Supervision and Authority (extent and control over the content and execution of his job), Office Life (level and type of interpersonal relations within the working environment), Personal Life Motivators like Achievement, Recognition, Job Interest, Responsibility and Advancement.

Non-financial rewards like a handwritten note, engraved trophy; gifts and privileges like holidays, sports facilities, merchandise; special events like weekend outings, parties, theatre trips; professional training including onsite and off-site courses, workshops, and seminars; self-development through personal, non-vocational training and finally equipment like a company car, laptop computer, mobile, residence telephone.

Financial rewards like salary increases (increases in the basic rate of pay), commission and bonuses (one-off payments linked to targets); performance-related pay (regular wage increases based on target linked performance); shares/stock options (gifts of shares or the chance to buy shares at a fraction of actual value); special rates (help with mortgage/rent, insurance, and other items within tax limits) and family health benefits (part or subsidized schemes offering private family healthcare).

Select the top 5 external motivators, which have helped you increase your performance levels in the past. These Five external motivators are your lifebuoys guiding you to safety and pointing you towards the shores of success.

Of course, we should periodically revisit and rearrange these lists: values, emotions, goals, and external motivators. Then communication and negotiation with those around us to come to a common understanding and recognition of what we value and what rewards are important motivators for us — these are the facts that will help us maintain high motivational levels for longer sustained periods of time.


In their book “Now, Discover Your Strengths”, Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton have listed out Thirty-four strengths or talents. Identify the 5 signature themes that best fit your top-of-the-mind reactions to situations that you face. Instinctively you will use your signature themes in isolation or in combination to handle any situation in life. Your strengths are your talents – your learned responses that are an integral part of you.

Here is the complete list of 34 strengths.

Achiever, Activator, Adaptability, Analytical, Arranger, Belief, Command, Communication, Competition, Connectedness, Context, Deliberative, Developer, Discipline, Empathy, Fairness, Focus, Futuristic, Harmony, Ideation, Inclusiveness, Individualization, Input, Intellection, Learner, Positivity, Relator, Responsibility, Restorative, Maximizer, Self-assurance, Significance, Strategic, Woo.

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Recognize your 5 most frequently used strengths (your signature themes). The 5 strengths are your lighthouse and help you to devise motivators and goals that are in tune with your innate, natural talents and this will increase the probability of your success.

About the Author:

Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in the design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an ebook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

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