Mentors: why you need one

What is a Mentor? Is he a guru, a grandfather/ grandmother – figure, a father / mother-figure, a guardian, a friend, a confidant? All these and more. The main duty of a Mentor is to ensure that we execute and accomplish the promises we made to ourselves and our families. The Mentor benefits intangible ways: with the blessings of Almighty on him. “Men are rich only as they give. He who gives great service gets great rewards” ~ Elbert Hubbard.

What does an adult need to promise his family: To his parents, he needs to promise to be there for them in physical and financial support when they age, to children he needs to promise to share their triumphs and trials, to attend their celebrations, and matches … to be there for them in the evenings and share family time, to provide them with a secure atmosphere filled with great values, to their spouse they must promise a few romantic evenings every week, great fully free vacations with no financial tensions.

The greatest gift that they can plan and work for, however, is to ensure that even if they are no longer around, their family – aged parents, spouse, and children – will be well taken care of financially and that they would be able to maintain at least 60% of their current lifestyle.

In today’s complex world filled with job insecurity, life insecurity, and stressful hurly-burly life … most of us find that we are not able to think of making the above mentioned bare essential life promises.

With respect to Job security, there is no need to elaborate much, as we have seen a huge share of the media devoted to the effects of the recession. Add to that the fact that inflation eats into our regular income … for those who are lucky enough to still retain their jobs. Not much leftover to keep aside … even if u kept money in the bank, looking at the rate the inflation rises, the money in the bank will not suffice …

With respect to life security, we know (refer to my blog “Health awareness is a must for all Indians”) that Indians are really suffering from lifestyle changes … with diseases and disorders. Can u count the number of people in your circle of contacts who have had someone in the family die of cancer, of sudden heart attack … without any life insurance coverage to help their family.

How many have fallen ill and had to spend all their meager savings to get well … or at least try to recover life back to the same “healthy” levels as before … without any medical insurance.

Why will adults remain adamant and NOT avail of the tools of modern life: life insurance, ULIPS and medical insurance? When they know that these would benefit their loved ones … or is it that adults and bread-earners of the house-holds become self-focused and selfish?

In such a scenario, if anyone adult or teenager wishes to take good care of his parents, spouse and children … and then also have money for charity, he needs a Mentor desperately. The Mentor will help him plan his financial goals, guide him on how to achieve the goals and monitor, track the progress, help him with income generation methodologies and ensure that the adult achieves what goals he sets.

The Mentor will not execute the plan of action … he will only suggest, guide, and help … maybe even share the workload of the Action … the adult however must give his 25 to 30% minimum effort.

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About the Author: Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an ebook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

My take on: Perception and Perspective

Perception is what you see with the eyes whereas perspective is what you conclude with your mind, emotions, feelings and soul. Perceptions are usually used with respect to the external objects whereas perspective is with respect to cultures, people, situations and your viewpoint about them.

Sometimes skewed perceptions can lead to faulty deductions, conclusions and wrong perceptive. You become what you think about and your perspectives define how you respond and soon your perspectives will be who you are.

Perception as a noun means:
· the act or faculty of apprehending by means of the senses or of the mind; cognition; understanding.
· immediate or intuitive recognition or appreciation, as of moral, psychological, or aesthetic qualities; insight; intuition; discernment: an artist of rare perception.
· the result or product of seeing / perceiving, as distinguished from the act of perceiving; percept.
· Psychology. A single unified awareness derived from sensory processes while a stimulus is present.
· Law. The taking into possession of rents, crops, profits, etc.

Actually, it is what you see. There are many examples of optical illusions to prove that what you see and/or perceive may not always be what is actually there. Sometimes there are 2 images hidden within one image; many objects hidden all over a picture which u may not perceive at the first glance. Is it an old lady or a young girl? Frog or banana? Crooked lines or parallel? Moving circles or stationary ones?

It is one of the commonest of mistakes to consider that the limit of our power of perception is also the limit of all there is to perceive. ~ C. W. Leadbeater. Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world. ~ Hans Margolius. People only see what they are prepared to see. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

What the caterpillar calls the end, the rest of the world calls a butterfly. ~ Lao Tzu

The perfect no-stress environment is the grave. When we change our perception, we gain control. The stress becomes a challenge, not a threat. When we commit to action, to actually doing something rather than feeling trapped by events, the stress in our life becomes manageable. ~ Greg Anderson. There is no truth. There is only perception.  ~ Gustave Flaubert. Generally, about all perception, we can say that a sense is what has the power of receiving into itself the sensible forms of things without the matter, in the way in which a piece of wax takes on the impress of a signet ring without the iron or gold. ~ Aristotle.

Perception deals with mostly what the eyes see; and deals with mere objects. Perspectives deal with events, our reactions to them. Thus, mistakes of perception are not as harmful as those of perspective. Perspective deals with the full range of thoughts, emotions, feelings, prior experience, culture attitudes and conditioning that a person brings towards the events that happen in their lives. It deals with our attitudes, our beliefs and our interpretations to what we have perceived: over the years we build up these perspectives – nearly unconscious assumptions that we often make; and this hinders our objective analysis of new situations.

Perspective may mean: is a point of view; this is defined by the earlier experiences, the emotions, the feelings and the entire backlog with respect to this current event. Different people have a different perspective (way of understanding, thinking about and dealing with) the same set of circumstances.

Literally, in visual topics:
• Perspective (visual), the way in which objects appear to the eye. A view or vista.
• Perspective (graphical), representing the effects of visual perspective in drawings. The relationship of aspects of a subject to each other and to a whole: a perspective of history; a need to view the problem from the proper perspective. The appearance of objects in depth as perceived by normal binocular vision. The technique of representing three-dimensional objects and depth relationships on a two-dimensional surface.

Metaphorically, in relation to cognitive topics:
• Perspective (cognitive), one’s “point of view”, the choice of a context for opinions, beliefs and experiences. Subjective evaluation of relative significance; a point of view: the perspective of the displaced homemaker.
• Point of view (literature), the related experience of the narrator
• Perspective (psychological), or wisdom: The ability to perceive things in their actual interrelations or comparative importance: tried to keep my perspective throughout the crisis.
• A mental view or outlook: “It is useful occasionally to look at the past to gain a perspective on the present” (Fabian Linden). The relationship of aspects of a subject to each other and to a whole: a perspective of history; a need to view the problem from the proper perspective.

Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth. ~ Marcus Aurelius. In order to keep a true perspective of one’s importance, everyone should have a dog that will worship him and a cat that will ignore him. ~ Anonymous.

Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat and worry with laughter at your predicaments, thus, freeing your mind to think clearly toward the solution that is certain to come. Never take yourself too seriously. ~ Og Mandino.

Meditation and wisdom, maturity with respect to emotions and behaviour helps in an objective perspective or gives us the ability to see a bigger picture … in which the success or failure which now confronts us is a mere speck in the collage of our life. Struggles and obstacles are Gods Blessings on us thru which He moulds and shapes us to better fit the purpose for which God had created us.

Meditation is the soul’s perspective glass. ~ Owen Felltham. Wisdom is your perspective on life, your sense of balance, your understanding of how the various parts and principles apply and relate to each other. It embraces judgment, discernment, comprehension. It is a gestalt or oneness, and integrated wholeness.
~ Stephen Covey.

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About the Author: Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an eBook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

The Pot of Gold

Once upon a time there was a young boy. He rushed from one rainbow to another searching for a pot of gold at the end of every pretty rainbow. He could not get proper guidance from anyone in his great quest for gold.

Finally. he got tired of being adventures and agreed to do what his fore-fathers had done. He agreed to take up his father’s profession. He started to beg seated on a box.

One day a passer-by asked him: “What is inside the box on which you are seated?” The beggar replied: “I don’t know. I have never opened the box. My father has sat on this box and begged. My grandfather too had sat on this same box and begged. So, I am continuing their tradition … and doing exactly as I had seen them do.”

Now the passer-by probed and insisted that the beggar must open the box at once and satisfy his curiosity … about the contents of the box on which he was seated. This insistence and questioning attitude of the passer-by tickled and activated the inherent curiosity of the beggar. So, he listened to the voice of the passer-by and opened the box.

Lo and behold! The box was filled with gold coins. The grandfather of the beggar had sat on the box begging … and had lived and died as a beggar. The father of the beggar had sat on the box begging … and had lived and died as a beggar. The tradition of poverty, begging and suffering, worry had all been handed down from one generation to the other … with an unnecessary amount of pain, worry and suffering.

Why did no one in the beggar’s family think of opening the box? Actually, that is human nature and obeys Newton’s Law: “A body at rest will continue to be at rest” … what is the rest of that law? “… unless it is acted upon by an external force. After which the body will start its motion and will remain in motion …. Once again until it is acted upon by an external force … very powerful law …

What does the box of gold coins have to do with us? The passer-by? The Newton’s Law?
Each one of us has within us as a God-given gift all that we need to create for ourselves the most beautiful lives that we can imagine. Dreams are given to us to wake us up and work towards accomplishing what we had visualized.

However, like the beggar, we get caught in the invisible mind programming and follow the examples of our father and grandfather without questioning whether times have changed and should we not change what we do … too?

It is true that each of us needs a passer-by, a Mentor in our lives, who will ask us the right questions, give us no “right” answers, make us seek our own answers, stay at our side and be patient with us … Mentors who will “edu-care” us … draw forth from within us the gifts, talents and leadership qualities and inborn qualities that God gave us … together with training us to inculcate winners’ habits. Mentors who will remain with us through thick and thin, through good times and bad … until we open our box of gold coins.

In days gone by India was famous for its gurukuls where the Gurus did just the above Edu-caring … not modern education which gives all the “right” answers and makes us into robots for the factory of rich employers … but the real edu-care and drawing forth from within great leadership qualities and success principles to lead a simple, good life with great peace of mind, lots of free time, good health and great wealth.

Now the Newton’s Law: When you start something good under the guidance of a great Mentor, you will continue to grow and progress … till u allow external (negative) forces to stop your progress. Life is simple but not easy. Be patient for 3 to 5 years as opening yourself is not an easy task: because the enemy is within … and the greatest obstacle to your progress is … you got it … YOU!

Keep smiling. Have hope. Trust your Guru and Mentor: allow yourself the time you need to listen, learn, edu-care and grow wealthy with respect to free time, better health and dream-like income streams.

Life is great fun and the learning by doing experimenting and making mistakes under the sharp eyes of the team of Mentors is very satisfying.

Of course, there is one condition: you must agree to share the knowledge, teachings and good things you acquire with others around you and learn how to become a Mentor yourself. Come join the team of India Gurus and Mentors: age is not a deterrent: as young as 18 years, as old as you are: both are great.

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How to Regularly Achieve Repeat Success

Success is not a one-time act. You need to repeat one success with a second; and the second with a third … life moves forward and you need the next success to satisfy your growing expectations and desires.

You need to know how to make Success a habit.

Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” ~ Earl Nightingale

Therefore, who succeeds? The only person who succeeds is the person who is progressively realizing a worthy ideal. The person who says, “I’m going to become this”… & then begins to work toward becoming it.

Here are 8 steps to help you realize success as often as you want:

1. See yourself, as you want to be 10 years, 5 years from now. Describe how you will be at end of each year for next 5 years.

This is long-range planning and need not be done too often. Once a year is adequate. Frequently looking at and imagining the long-range future has a tendency to discourage small incremental efforts in the short-term.

The key is to start with a 10-year vision; then the 5-year and work back towards success spot for each year for next 5 years. From the start fix whether you are talking and describing the beginning or end of the year.

Do not mix the 2. If you fix on beginning as your time reference, it should remain beginning for checking status for all the time-slots: day / week / month / year.

Will you evaluate, analyze, consolidate and visualize at the beginning of the day / week / month / year or at the end? Decide this upfront and then stick to it.

I personally prefer to do it at the end so that I can start the next time-slot well prepared but everyone has his or her preferences. Select the one that you tune to but be consistent in all time-slots.

2. Write a description of the person you want to become by calendar year-end: the money, health & relationships you want to have – Act the part — You are that person!

Here I want you to work from a feeling of abundance. I would like you to read & forget about the one paragraph: because if you remember what you should not do you may find yourself doing what you should not do … merely because you are focusing on not doing it!

Often you are told to evaluate where you are and then describe where you want to be … and plan how to get where you want to be. This exercise unfortunately focuses on your lack of something: it reinforces scarcity and the gap discourages you from even taking the first step forward. Read the article “How to Conquer Fear of Success”. Now forget about this paragraph (after you read the article:-)

What you should do is: forget about where you are today. Just describe where you want to be. Make it as wild and ambitious as possible. Think of great people who did just such ‘impossible’ things. Feel that you have already reached your goals: in the areas of money, health and relationships.

Behave, think, feel and act today in the same way that you can see yourself after having accomplished your goals. To learn what makes you tick and how you can gain the skills required to make success a habit, read the article “How to Align Your Goals for Success” and the eBook “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace”

3. Establish definite goals – money, health, relationships Experience the sensation of these goals accomplished.

Whenever you sit down to define your goals remember to work from an abundance mentality. Go ahead stand at the place where you want to be, and define what you have accomplished.

These are the goals that you must plan for now in the present. This exercise will take a lot of time and practice because from childhood our minds have been tuned to work from a scarcity mind-set. Remember your own past accomplishments, remember great men who did ‘impossible’ tasks, history repeats itself: all you need is faith and confidence that you too can repeat history.

Think positive thoughts about yourself. Take total responsibility for your current position. It was your reaction and responses to circumstances that have placed you were you currently are. Learn to change your attitude if need be. Read the article “3 Ways to Help Yourself Towards Success” and receive the free email course “Success comes from Within” with a mail to within@sendfree.com

4. Look back … from the vantage spot of goals reached.
What have you done to reach that point?
List these activities. Do them.
Who has helped you reach this point?
Request their support. Do as they say.

It is a good idea to prioritize the list of activities and have no more than 3 that are mandatory for the day. In the beginning, define just ONE mandatory activity and complete it. Then move onto 2 and finally 3. In a single day, never ever plan to complete more than 3 mandatory activities.

Classify the activities into 4 Quadrants: Simplicity and Impact. Low Simplicity (i.e. complex, difficult, time-consuming) and Low Impact is Quadrant 1; High Simplicity and Low Impact is Quadrant 2; Low Simplicity and High Impact is Quadrant 3; High Simplicity and High Impact is Quadrant 4.

When you assign priorities, ensure that you give higher priority to Quadrant 4 activities and least to Quadrant 1 activities. Quadrant 2 and 3 you can categorize as you wish: I would prefer to complete the simple activities and get the benefit of even the low impact early on; therefore, I would prefer Quadrant 2 to Quadrant 3 any day. But there is not much to prioritize between Quadrants 2 and 3 really.

While planning for Career Success, here are some tools that will help you create your list of activities: “7 Ways to Reach Success At Any Stage of Your Career”

5. Every day evaluate status, praise yourself; go back to step 4

Planning activities even in the minutest details does not guarantee success. What helps you succeed is keeping track of progress, anticipating possible roadblocks, mitigating them, facing issues head on, and taking necessary corrective actions. You should re-plan every day. Whatever may be the state of your activities, you should praise yourself for at least ONE accomplishment of the day, however small it may be.

6. Every week analyze progress, reward yourself; go back to step 3

The key to praises and rewards is to maintain a Journal of the reasons why you praised yourself daily, why you rewarded yourself every week. Go through this list and I am sure you will be able to justify the celebration recommended in the next step.

As human beings we do have our ups and downs. It is how fast and how well we recover from our downs that determines how fast we progress during our next up cycle. The Journal helps remind us of how good, how great, how unique we are and gets us through the next down phase with greater energy than before.

7. Every month consolidate, celebrate; go back to step 2

Accomplishments have a funny way of getting buried under the debris of day-to-day blunders, mishaps and existences. Celebrate with your support team, your near and dear ones.

The praises you received from others could be passed onto your support team for reinforcements. The rewards that you give yourself can also be shared with those who wish you well. However, it does not matter if you sometimes enjoy praises and rewards with yourself.

However, when it comes to celebration time, it is highly recommended that you gather your support team and friends too. This has the added advantage that you recognize publicly those who have supported and helped you. Your support team meets each other and gels together … and this will help them help you better in the future.

8. Every year take a vacation, visualize; go back to step 1

Often you see things more clearly when you take one step away from the situation. You need to sharpen your axe. You need to get your reinforcements in place.

A vacation away from the nitty-gritty of your goals, your list of activities and your accomplishments is sure to rejuvenate you. Do give yourself a holiday at least once a year for at least 3 consecutive days, preferably a week.

You could do the visualization on the last lap of your vacation after you have refreshed yourself. Remember that on your return from vacation, you should complete your visualization BEFORE you start any other activity … even checking your mails can wait … especially checking your mails.

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About the Author: Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an eBook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

How to Align Your Goals for Success

Ask yourself the question: “Am I committed to my objectives and goals and to my staff?”

YOUR GOALS

Maybe you have not yet defined your personal goals and thus cannot find any reason to achieve the work-place objectives? Are you just drifting along without a rudder and any sense of purpose? If yes, do proceed to the next chapter to learn the importance of setting your goals and how to set achievable, meaningful, clear goals.

If you are reluctant to set off to work, catch yourself procrastinate at work, doing easy jobs instead of the critical, tough ones; if you are unable to make decisions, find it difficult, to be honest in your discussions with your superiors these are all signs that you are de-motivated.

You do not need to consider yourself motivationally challenged. It is within your power to change your attitude about unpleasant tasks, and complete the project and achieve your goals no matter what it is. Using the Seven Happiness Enablers helps you become upbeat, efficient, and effective in all areas of your life.

Listing out your goals in 5 areas — spiritual (inner being), personal (relationships), work-life (profession, career), material (money), and society — as described and then prioritizing the goals, defining an action plan … this list of Goals one motivating source. Your goals are the rudder of your ship as you journey through life.

YOUR VALUES

Next look at values and emotions, at people whom you admire and the values and emotions that they express, and analyze which values and emotions attract you. Some may be easy for you to achieve. Now you should strike a balance between ease and importance. All things that are critical for success are not easy to attain. You must practice “faking” till it becomes a second habit.

Values list – Adventurous, Affectionate, Authoritarian, Caring, Compassionate, Courage, Creative, Critical, Cruel, Dedication, Devotion, Discerning, Encouraging, Esthetics, Enthusiastic, Excellence, Empowerment, Faith, Fairness, Freedom, Friendly, Generous, Giving, Gracious, Health-related, Helpful, Hope, Honesty, Honor, Hostile, Humility, Humor, Independence, Integrity, Intimacy, Kind, Law-abiding, Loyalty, Malleable, Manipulative, Merciful, Nurturing, Patriotic, Peaceful, Permissive, Perseverance, Power, Preservation of Nature, Respect For Elders, Respect for Others, Relationship-oriented, Resilience, Responsibility, Reverence for Life, Righteousness, Risk Taking, Self Respect, Social Harmony, Security, Serving, Spiritual Connection, Social-minded, Supportive, Task-oriented, Thoughtful, Tolerant, Tradition, Trust, Zeal, Zest.

Select your top 5 values from this list. If their meanings seem identical to you like Integrity, Trust club and consider them as one value to live by. Sailors of yore depended on the light of the stars in the heavens to guide them safely on the rough seas. You should make this list of your top 5 values your guiding stars through the journey of life and use this insight to make important decisions especially when the going is tough and you are in troubled waters.

YOUR EMOTIONS

Now choose from the list of positive emotions that you can choose to possess and which will motivate you; give each of the 2 attributes: ease of acquiring and importance for success. Mark them for ease & importance on a scale of 1 to 5. Then order them as per your liking and draw up an action plan to fake them till you acquire them. Remember to define small milestones along the way and reward yourself from time to time.

The word “emotion” is generally misused for feelings and sentiments — in general, for affects. These are, in neurological and physiological terms, no emotions at all.

Aristotle’s Rhetoric has a long list of irascible and concupiscence emotions in pairs, each with its opposites, such as love, hate or joy, and sorrow. Thomas Aquinas in his Summa Theologica adopts a similar listing and grouping. Benedict Spinoza in his Ethics, Book IV presents another list of emotions. We can also find listings of the emotions or passions in Francis Bacon, Thomas Hobbes, and John Locke, and in subsequent writing by British empirical psychologists, David Hume, George Berkeley, and J. S. Mill.

A very short list of emotions is presented in the psychology of William James, where he pays tribute to Professor C. Lange, a Danish physiologist, for his contribution to a theory of emotions that came to be known as the James-Lange theory. The James-Lange theory of emotions applies to the lower animals as well as to human beings, as anyone knows who has observed a hissing and ferocious cat or a frightened rabbit.

Emotions are widespread bodily and visceral changes that are controlled by the sympathetic nervous system. This widespread neurological and physiological commotion includes such things as changes in the respiratory system, pupillary dilation, and electricity in the epidermis, presence of adrenaline in the blood stream, and changes in the pulse. This complex state of changes, occurring simultaneously and accompanied by bodily movements of attack and withdrawal, constitutes an emotion, strictly speaking. Sentiments on the other hand, represent the non-rational aspect of human nature, the aspect of human nature that human beings share with other animals.

Some Emotions are: Ambition, Anger, Anxiety, Appetite, Approval, Avarice, Aversion, Benevolence, Bitterness, Blaming, Calmness, Clemency, Compassion, Condemning, Confidence, Consternation, Contempt, Courage, Courtesy, Cowardice, Criticizing, Cruelty, Daring, Deference, Depression, Derision, Desire, Despair, Devotion, Disappointment, Discouragement, Disdain, Disillusionment, Disparagement, Doubt, Deference, Emulation, Enmity, Envy, Fear, Friendship, Gratitude, Guilt, Hatred, High-mindedness, Honor, Hope, Horror, Humility, Hurt, Impudence, Inclination, Indignation, Infirmity, Injustice, Intemperance, Jealousy, Joy, Kindness, Loneliness, Love, Lust, Luxury, Melancholy, Memory, Merriment, Mirth, Modesty, Pain, Partiality, Pity, Pleasure, Pride, Rage, Regret, Repentance, Revenge, Savageness, Self-Abasement, Self-Approval, Self-Complacency, Self-Rejection, Scorn, Shame, Sin, Stimulation, Stress, Suffering, Sympathy, Thankfulness, Timidity, Unworthiness, Vacillation, Veneration, Wonder, Worry

The Seven Deadly Sins – Pride, Avarice (Greed), Wrath, Gluttony, Envy, Sloth, and Lust – have been considered checkpoints on the road to Hell for centuries. There is a way to combat the Seven Deadly Sins: the Seven Cardinal Virtues. By practicing the Virtue of Humility, you can overcome the Sin of Pride. Patience will quell Wrath and Diligence defeats Sloth. Generosity can tackle Greed and Kindness always beats Envy in the end. Abstinence will save you from Gluttony and Chastity defends against Lust. The Eighth Deadly Sin earlier listed was the unforgivable transgression of sadness. Caring and Serving others helps remove this disease of sadness.

Select the 5 most comfortable positive emotions that you like. These 5 positive emotions will be your compass and guide you on your way through life.

Thus, defining the values, emotions, and goals that are important to us will help us identify what motivates us from within. Once we get a clear picture of these self-motivators, we can then work towards communicating these needs to those around us so that we start getting the external motivators, which will reinforce the inner motivators.

EXTERNAL MOTIVATORS

Now in the area of external motivators also we should list out (choose from this list to start with and add your own) all external motivators that we have heard about, read of, that have acted as positive motivators in the past, those that have de-motivated us earlier. Prioritize this list also in our personal order of importance.

Some external motivators are:

Basic Needs At Work – Salary and benefits (basic income, benefits, bonuses, holidays, company car etc) , Working conditions (working hours, workplace layout, facilities and equipment provided for the job), Company policy (formal and informal rules and regulations), Status (determined by the rank, authority and relationship to others — reflecting a level of acceptance), Job Security (degree of confidence he has regarding continued employment in the organization), Supervision and Authority (extent and control over the content and execution of his job), Office Life (level and type of interpersonal relations within the working environment), Personal Life Motivators like Achievement, Recognition, Job Interest, Responsibility and Advancement.

Non-financial rewards like a handwritten note, engraved trophy; gifts and privileges like holidays, sports facilities, merchandise; special events like weekend outings, parties, theatre trips; professional training including onsite and off-site courses, workshops, and seminars; self-development through personal, non-vocational training and finally equipment like a company car, laptop computer, mobile, residence telephone.

Financial rewards like salary increases (increases in the basic rate of pay), commission and bonuses (one-off payments linked to targets); performance-related pay (regular wage increases based on target linked performance); shares/stock options (gifts of shares or the chance to buy shares at a fraction of actual value); special rates (help with mortgage/rent, insurance, and other items within tax limits) and family health benefits (part or subsidized schemes offering private family healthcare).

Select the top 5 external motivators, which have helped you increase your performance levels in the past. These Five external motivators are your lifebuoys guiding you to safety and pointing you towards the shores of success.

Of course, we should periodically revisit and rearrange these lists: values, emotions, goals, and external motivators. Then communication and negotiation with those around us to come to a common understanding and recognition of what we value and what rewards are important motivators for us — these are the facts that will help us maintain high motivational levels for longer sustained periods of time.

YOUR STRENGTHS

In their book “Now, Discover Your Strengths”, Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton have listed out Thirty-four strengths or talents. Identify the 5 signature themes that best fit your top-of-the-mind reactions to situations that you face. Instinctively you will use your signature themes in isolation or in combination to handle any situation in life. Your strengths are your talents – your learned responses that are an integral part of you.

Here is the complete list of 34 strengths.

Achiever, Activator, Adaptability, Analytical, Arranger, Belief, Command, Communication, Competition, Connectedness, Context, Deliberative, Developer, Discipline, Empathy, Fairness, Focus, Futuristic, Harmony, Ideation, Inclusiveness, Individualization, Input, Intellection, Learner, Positivity, Relator, Responsibility, Restorative, Maximizer, Self-assurance, Significance, Strategic, Woo.

You can order the book “Now, Discover Your Strengths by Marcus Buckingham, Donald O. Clifton at www.amazon.com

Recognize your 5 most frequently used strengths (your signature themes). The 5 strengths are your lighthouse and help you to devise motivators and goals that are in tune with your innate, natural talents and this will increase the probability of your success.

About the Author:

Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years now. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in the design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an ebook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

Nested Plans: 6 Levels of Planning

Work your Plans: Most Minute Details in Weekly Plan

Create a different level of plans with a decreasing amount of details and increasing big chunks of time and the list of tasks you need to have completed at each stage.

For example: 
(a) Sweat the details from daily (level 1) plans which have the minute details of where you wish to spend each 15 minute or half-hour chunk of your time. 
(b) Next is weekly (level 2) plans to deal with three-hour chunks of time. 
(c) Then monthly (level 3) where you plan in one-day chunks of time. 
(d) Annual (level 4) deals with weekly goals. 
(e) Short-term (level 5) for 3 years deals with month-wise accomplishments. 
(f) Long-term (level 6) for 5 to 10 years with annual goals

Long-term is the biggest circle; within which is 3 years; in that is annual—look at the exercise as concentric circles. When you plan: you move outside-in (from level 6 to level 0). When you monitor progress: you move inside-out i.e. from the smaller time slots to the bigger time slots. Doing the planning and re-planning regularly is a mandatory exercise towards Serene Wellness. Use the SWQ (Serene Wellness Quotient) Quiz to check that you are spending at least the mandatory time on areas that are high on your current (and long-term) priority.

How to Regularly Achieve Repeat Success

Success is not a one-time act. You need to repeat one success with a second, and the second with a third. Life moves forward and you need the next success to satisfy your growing expectations and desires.
You need to know how to make success a habit. You need to know how to go through the failure – failure – success cycles: gratitude for both failure and success; prayer and humility in success and prayer and fortitude in failure. ” Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” ~ Earl Nightingale.
The only person who succeeds is the person who is progressively realizing a worthy ideal. The person who says, “I’m going to become this,” and then begins to work towards becoming it.

Here are 8 steps to help you realize success as often as you want:

1. See yourself as you want to be 10 years, as well as 5 years from now. Describe how you will be at the end of each year for the next 5 years.
This is long-range planning and need not be done too often—once a year is adequate. Frequently looking at and imagining the long-range future tends to discourage small incremental efforts in the short-term.
The key is to start with a ten-year vision; then the five-year and work back towards success spot for each year for the next 5 years.
From the start, fix whether you are talking and describing the beginning or end of the year. Do not mix the 2. If you fix on the beginning as your time reference, it should remain so for checking status for all the time slots: day/week/month/year. 
Do you want to Evaluate, analyze, consolidate, and visualize at the beginning of the day/week/month/year or the end?  Decide this upfront and then stick to it.
I prefer to do it at the end so that I can start the next time slot well-prepared but everyone has his or her preferences. Select the one that you tune to but be consistent in all time slots.

2. Write a description of the person you want to become by the calendar year-end: the money, health, and relationships you want to have. Work and live in a feeling of abundance, think positive thoughts, say good kind words, and act timely, thoughtfully, and in abundance.
Often you are told to evaluate where you are and then describe where you want to be and plan how to get where you want to be. This exercise, unfortunately, focuses on your lack of something: it reinforces scarcity and the gap discourages you from even taking the first step forward.
What you should do is forget about where you are today. Just describe where you want to be. Make it as wild and ambitious as possible. Think of great people who did just such ‘impossible’ things. Feel that you have already reached your goals: in the areas of money, health, and relationships.
Behave, think, feel, and act today in the same way that you can see yourself after having accomplished your goals.

3. Establish definite goals—money, health, relationships. Experience the sensation of these goals accomplished. 
Whenever you sit down to define your goals remember to work with an abundance mentality. Go ahead and stand at the place where you want to be, and define what you have accomplished.
These are the goals that you must plan for now in the present. This exercise will take a lot of time and practice because from childhood our minds have been tuned to work from a scarcity mind-set. Remember your past accomplishments, remember great men who did ‘impossible’ tasks, history repeats itself: all you need is faith and confidence that you too can repeat history.
Think positive thoughts about yourself. Take total responsibility for your current position. It was your reaction and responses to circumstances that have placed you where you currently are. Learn to change your attitude if need be.

4. Look back to look forward from the vantage spot of goals reached.
What have you done to reach that point? List these activities. Do them. Who has helped you reach this point? Request their support. Do as they say.
It is a good idea to prioritize the list of activities and have no more than 3 that are mandatory for the day. In the beginning, define just one mandatory activity and complete it. Then move onto 2 and finally 3. In a single day, never plan to complete more than 3 mandatory activities.
Classify the activities into 4 quadrants: Low Simplicity (i.e. complex, difficult, time-consuming) and Low Impact is Quadrant 1; High Simplicity and Low Impact is Quadrant 2; Low Simplicity and High Impact is Quadrant 3; High Simplicity and High Impact is Quadrant 4. 

Impact III IV
Complex & Low Impact Simple & High Impact
I II
Complex & Low Impact Simple & Low Impact
  Simplicity

When you assign priorities, ensure that you give higher priority to Quadrant 4 activities and least to Quadrant 1 activities. Quadrant 2 and 3 you can categorize as you wish: I would prefer to complete the simple activities and get the benefit of even the low impact early on; therefore, I would prefer Quadrant 2 to Quadrant 3 any day. There is not much to prioritize between quadrants 2 and 3 

5. Every day evaluate your status and praise yourself.
Planning activities even in the minutest details does not guarantee success. What helps you succeed is keeping track of progress, anticipating possible roadblocks, mitigating them, facing issues head-on, and taking necessary corrective actions.
You should re-plan every day. Whatever may be the state of your activities, you should praise yourself for at least one accomplishment of the day, however small it may be.

 6. Every week analyze your progress and reward yourself. 
Then revisit your goals. Is each goal still relevant? Do you want to drop or modify these? Has any goal been completed? Any sustained growth goal to be included in its stead? Is there a goal you want to postpone to a future date? Are there any new goals you wish to include for the rest of the year (time period)?
Go to step 3. Cycle between steps 3 to 4 to 5 to 6! That’s the flow.
The key to praises and rewards is to maintain a journal of the reasons why you praised yourself daily, why you rewarded yourself every week. Go through this list, and I am sure you will be able to justify the celebration recommended in the next step.
As human beings, we do have our ups and downs. It is how fast and how well we recover from our downs that determine how fast we progress during our next up-cycle. The journal helps remind us of how good, how great, how unique we are, and gets us through the next down phase with greater energy than before.

7. Every month consolidate your efforts and celebrate; go to step 2.
Accomplishments have a funny way of getting buried under the debris of day-to-day blunders, mishaps, and existences. Celebrate with your support team or your near and dear ones.
The praises you received from others could be passed on to your support team for reinforcements. The rewards that you give yourself can also be shared with those who wish you well. However, it does not matter if you sometimes enjoy praises and rewards with yourself.
However, it is highly recommended that you gather your support team and friends too during this celebration. This has the added advantage that you recognize publicly those who have supported and helped you. Your support team meets each other and gels together and this will help them help you better in the future.

8. Every year take a vacation, and visualize that too; go to step 1.
Often you see things more clearly when you take one step away from the situation. You need to sharpen your axe. You need to get your reinforcements in place.
A vacation away from the nitty-gritty of your goals, your list of activities, and your accomplishments is sure to rejuvenate you. Do give yourself a holiday at least once a year for at least 3 consecutive days, or preferably for a week.
You could do the visualization on the last lap of your vacation after you have refreshed yourself. Remember that on your return from vacation, you should complete your visualizations before you start any other activity—even checking your emails can wait; especially checking your emails.
~ excerpt from the book Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas” by Healer Naseem Mariam, Chennai, India: available on Amazon.in, notionpress.com since 12-Sep-2018

About the Author: Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) heals people using Alternative therapies for over 10 years. Earlier, she has worked for 24 years as a Senior Software Manager in Wipro and Aricent Technologies in the design and testing of applications and systems, managing large projects for customers worldwide.  During 2001 – 2003, she wrote many articles on self-development, personal health, project management, and customer satisfaction. Revisiting that treasure trove and republishing those articles. She has authored an eBook called “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace” and 3 books on Lifestyle and Wellness: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas”, “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” with its companion “Belly Loss Habits: Workbook to Vibrant Health”.

Extra Income as Health and Beauty Icons

Health and Wellness is an evergreen niche. Many people need the services of health care professionals. Work from home, flexible hours at a career in alternative therapies like Acupuncture. Also, earn extra passive income through Affiliate marketing of Health and Beauty products

Niche Selection

IKIGAI: Intersection of 4 Questions:
What you are good at (Your Talent & Skills),
What you Love (Your Passion),
What the world needs, and
What people will pay for

Ikigai to select Niche
Ikigai to select Niche

Ikigai way to identify your niche and micro-niche

  1. What I am GOOD AT
    Trainer: Skills and certifications help me be a trainer: Soft skills, Experiential Learning through Games, certified Master Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), Pranic Healing Teacher, certified SuJok Trainer, Director of Acupuncture and Alternative Medicine Academy
    Healing: 10+ years’ experience in Acupuncture, SuJok, Hijama
    Affiliated to All Tamil Nadu Acupuncture and Alternative Medicine Association (ATAMA),
    Indian Academy of Acupuncture Sciences (IAAS), International SuJok Association (ISA), and
    International Cupping Association (ICA).
  2. What I LOVE
    Healing people, counseling and coaching them to better health
  3. What the world NEEDS
    Natural alternative therapies and Ancient healing secrets to Vibrant Health
  4. What people will PAY for
    Solutions for any or combination of:
    Weight loss, belly fat, fatty liver, Digestive issues, heart issues,
    Breathing issues, skin problems, constipation, piles,
    Hormonal issues, fertility issues, Stones (Kidney, GB, UB),
    Urinary Incontinence, insomnia, stress, mental health issues,
    Calm mind, improve focus and attention, and many others.

FAQs
1. Are you clear about your niche? My niche is clear.

2. What are the biggest challenges & fears you are facing when trying to choose your niche? (If you have already chosen your niche, please talk about how you chose your niche). *

My niche is Health & Wellness as I am an acupuncture professional and trainer. My micro niche is reducing belly fat. I have a personal success story. There are 4 daily habits that help bring Vibrant Health into a person’s life. They take a person N.E.A.R. Serene Wellness.

As they gain Vibrant Health, they can do 2 things to earn extra income working from home: Affiliate and/or network marketing of Health and Beauty products

Professional Career as an Acupuncture and Alternative Therapies Healer.

Belly Loss Blueprint Fills the GAP
Belly Loss Blueprint and Belly Loss 5 habits Workshop fill the GAP to take the lady to her desired state of Vibrant Health and Serene Wellness. All you need to do is hold on to 5 N.E.A.R. habits. N.E.A.R. stands for Natural Nutrition, Easy Exercises, Attractive Attitude, Rejuvenating Rest using Alternative therapies, and Ancient Healing Secrets of India. This is the first step towards Serene Wellness in 7 Areas.

  1. Which category will your niche fit into? *

Serene Wellness 7 Areas of Life
The 7 Areas of Serene Wellness creates a holistic human being. First balance the individual level (PV, EW, SC); Then work on your relationships (RP, SC), which will result in Balancing the 2 Abundances of Time and Money.

Health [Now Serene Wellness Area 1,2 and 3]

Wealth [Later Serene Wellness Area 4 and 5]

Relationships [Later Serene Wellness Area 6 and 7]

Hobbies / Arts / Crafts [Story Telling to kids: Serene Wellness Area 6 and 7]

Entertainment [Story Telling to kids: Serene Wellness Area 6 and 7]

4. What do you think about the competition in your niche? Are you afraid and worried that there are too many players? Or do you think that you can do better than them? (Try to give a detailed explanation).

Yes. There is a huge competition. I am not afraid or worried. My competition is always with myself. My results and feedback received from batch 2 must be better than batch 1 participants. I improve my game every step of the way.

My ideal customer avatar is Mrs. Seetha, aged 35-55 years married with teenage children. First demography is Chennai, then 6 major cities in India, then onto rest of the world. Social media edutainment is a great way to locate these ladies.

  1. What are some of the niche ideas you have in your mind right now? *

My niche ideas are:

Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health
Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health, Weight Loss Enhance Immunity and Calm, Focussed Mind

Belly Loss Blueprint – Weight Loss Book

My 2nd book “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health”,
and it has a companion workbook called “Belly Loss 5-Habits Workbook”:
The 5 habits are Natural Nutrition, Easy Exercises, Attractive Attitude, Rejuvenating Rest … woven together with Alternative therapies & Ancient Healing Secrets.
#workfromhome #healthywealthywoman #vibrantHealth #ReduceBellyFat

  1. What is the No.1 Thing you want to learn from your mentor about niche selection? *

Siddharth Rajsekar, my Tribe Building Mentor, Sidz (https://sidz.co/) asked me to research 1000 questions in at least 10 sub-areas of my micro niche and create a swipe file.

To Deepak Kanagaraju (https://digitaldeepak.com/), my Internship Master, I ask how to attract my 50 to 100 ideal customers, gift them to take a survey. free 121 consultations. I could offer them free or subsidized access to my online courses for feedback.

I learn the 9 skills of Digital Marketing till I Master them in order that I may more effectively, speedily meet, build trust, and nurture my target audience.

9 Skills of Digital Marketing
9 Skills of Digital Marketing

  1. What tools, methods, or approaches that you have used to discover your niche (or try to discover) in the past?I am happy with my niche and sub-niche also my USP “N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health”, an undertaking of Serene Wellness Academy. (Serene Wellness defines 7 Life Areas).

Research completed till now:
queries available in answerthepublic,
Amazon search for books,
Coursera and udemy search for courses,
blog search, free pdf downloads search.

Research in Aug 2020: (sidz challenge):
swipe file & buzzwords
quora to pick up related questions;
Clickbank (inspired by the copy),
medium.com for headlines,
Buzzsumo for trending content in my niche and micro-niche.

Actions to do:

(i) Build a swipe file and scrapbook,
(ii) 1000 Questions at least 10 for ten chapters,
(iii) create survey gifts include 2 questions:
“What is your biggest #1 challenge you want to learn?” or
“What prevents you from enjoying good health today?”
(iv) My Healthy Habits Evaluation Quiz is already available.
(v) For taking the survey they win free 121 for 15 minutes with me to understand their needs better
(vi) get 50 to 100 people to take the course and get amazing feedback and video testimonials: then split the video into 111 pieces of social media content as per Alyssa’s method

MY PLAN TO MAKE 1 CRORE+

A. FREELANCE PROJECTS F1. In training to earn thru freelancing and execution of full-funnel projects as a team. I like content marketing and copywriting, Google My Business, WordPress 5-page website. Create transcripts in pdf and eBooks from webinar and video content.

B. TRIBE BUILDING

T1. My books: “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas” is a Blueprint for 7 books. Kindle or pdf version of the book as a free gift. the tripwire is 7 days online course, 7 weeks Serene Wellness Habits Workshop as Core Product. Profit Maximisers: Group weekly Masterminds, High Ticket 121 Coaching, Monthly membership community

Serene Wellness Daily Practise in 7 Areas
Serene Wellness Daily Practise in 7 Areas

T2. My 2nd book on Physical Health is nearing completion. “Belly Loss Blueprint: Come N.E.A.R. Vibrant Health” kindle, paperback, and audio version as Tripwire or free.

A companion workbook called “Belly Loss 5-days Habits Workbook” with 5-days online course Habits of Vibrant Health (currently ongoing as WhatsApp workshop with daily Zoom calls) and Healthy Habits Evaluation Quiz.

The core product is 3 months Habits of Vibrant Health.
Profit Maximizers: Group weekly Masterminds, High Ticket 121 Coaching,
A monthly membership community, Serene Wellness Associates (Health & Beauty Affiliates like network marketing)

Tripwire: Rs. 4999 (start and in 3 months upgrade to Rs. 14999)
Core Product: 3 months Rs. 14999 (in 6 months upgrade to Rs. 29999)
Profit Maximisers: Group weekly Mastermind Rs. 19999 for 6 months or Rs. 29999 for a year

T3. Specific daily healthy habits for the following:
Diabetes & BP, Kidney, Liver & GB Health,
Gut Health, Healthy Heart,
Hormonal Health, Fertile Families,
Age Gracefully etc.

T4. Similarly, the other areas of Serene Wellness also will have the same structure. The other 6 areas are Emo/Mental, Spiritual, Time Priority, Financial, Relationships (storytelling to inculcate values and strong beliefs), and Community Service.

T5.  PROFESSIONAL courses: Train graduates to become Acupuncture specialists (1 Lakh),
Hijama practitioners (25k) and SuJok therapists (50k).

T6. Affiliate and Network Marketing of Health & Beauty products and services identified by Masterminds in our tribe “Belly Loss Oaks & Olives” (Oaks and Olives as per Bach remedies have these character traits: Oaks are ladies who overwork physically, they are drained out yet will not rest or cannot rest. Olives are ladies who are mentally exhausted).

MY experiences in Marketing, Sales & Branding
1. Customer Support for 250 software “products” (digital products in Datacomm and Telecom area). Coordinated with Sales & Marketing teams to write project proposals and get the sale. Also was in charge of huge client-specific software projects with up to 100-member teams.

  1. As a healer handled marketing and self-promotion through seminars and lectures.
  2. After starting Digital Marketing, ran few FB Ads. Got inquiries for Acupuncture and SuJok courses. The best most fruitful experience was after lockdown.

(i) Acupuncture Ad in Tamil sent thru Instagram Ad to ladies 25-50 years, around 20kn radius of Alandur. Both times some 10+ ladies responded with health queries. I sent them the solutions thru pictures and text instructions. They followed the instructions and had good relief.

(ii) Binge marketing 2 batches of BL5HW (Belly Loss 5-days Habits Workshop) conducted. The first batch had 10 participants all free. 2nd batch had participants a few Rs. 199 others Rs. 499. Many appreciated the reading material. Early results are positive. Waiting for testimonials from them after a month or 2.

CONCLUSION

I thank God that by profession I am in a very popular and high paying niche. Learning the basics of digital marketing. Freelancing jobs will help me learn various aspects of Digital Marketing life cycles.

NEXT STEPS

A. Further Reading

  1. Online Business: Simple, Easy, now (Simple Easy Now Book 1) Kindle Edition by Gaurav Gurbaxani (Author)
  2. GIG ECONOMY IN INDIA RISING: GEN X-Millennial-Z [Print Replica] Kindle Edition by AMITAVA GHOSH (Author)
  3. The Gig Is Up: Thrive in the Gig Economy. Where Old Jobs Are Obsolete and Freelancing Is the Future Kindle Edition by Olga Mizrahi (Author)
  4. The Gig Economy: The Complete Guide to Getting Better Work, Taking More Time Off, and Financing the Life You Want Kindle Edition by Diane Mulcahy (Author)

B. Read these eBooks

  1. This eBook gives you a ground reality on what it takes to successfully create an income stream apart from your day job. A Step-by-Step Guide to Earn ₹70,000/- a Month by Freelance Digital Marketing
  2. Accomplished Freelancers who make Lakhs of Rupees each month reveal their business secrets for the first time for you! Stop Working for Peanuts – Freelancer Guide eBook Bundle

C. Join these courses & community

Health & Wellness Niche Belly Loss 5-day Habits Workshop by Dr. Naseem Mariam

Get certified by Online Business Organization in various streams of Digital Marketing

The freelance community at DigitalMarket.com

Online Business Mentorship by Gaurav Gurbaxani

CALL TO JOIN HEALTH & BEAUTY TRIBE

Ladies can apply for membership to the Belly Loss Oaks & Olives FB Group. You will get free training to be an Entrepreneur and Health & Beauty Affiliate. DM Dr. Naseem Mariam with your name, cell number, city, and email id.

Stay Connected

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LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/holistichealthcoach
Twitter @naseemmacu https://www.twitter.com/naseemmacu
Website(s): https://bellyboss.in; https://serenewellness.coachhttps://naseemmariam.com
Podcast: https://anchor.fm/bellybosstalk
YouTube Serene Wellness Academy https://bit.ly/2O1MThe
Google My Biz https://bit.ly/2CAOacR
Email: bellybosslady@gmail.com

Keywords: work from home, Health & Beauty Ambassadors, Professional Healers, extra passive income, freelancing, GIG economy, Reduce Belly Fat, Vibrant Health, Serene Wellness

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ABOUT NASEEM MARIAM

Dr. Naseem Mariam PhD (Acu)
Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu)

Dr. Naseem Mariam PhD (Acu) loves to heal people. Her mission is to inculcate the 5 N.E.A.R. habits of Vibrant Health in her tribe. N.E.A.R. stands for Natural Nutrition, Easy Exercises, Attractive Attitude, Rejuvenating Rest using Alternative therapies, and Ancient Healing Secrets of India. This is the first step towards Serene Wellness in 7 Areas.

 

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Typical Day of Serene Wellness

Day(s) in the Life of a Holistically Healthy Person

(a Typical Day of Serene Wellness, Wealthy Success and Holistic Health: Script your own)

A sample day in the life of a person with wealthy success, holistic health, and Serene Wellness described.

4am: Wake up. A wealthy success person wakes up early as (s)he has a lot of work to do, finds life fun, thrilling and exhilarating and does not want to lose any precious time.

4 – 5am Prayer, gratitude, meditation, reading scripture, self-talk, religious tapes. This develops and sustains internal growth and development (SC, EW). We look forward to the time when the Power of Love will replace the Love of Power. Then will our world know the blessings of peace? ~ William Ewart Gladstone.

5 – 6am: Review the activities to be executed during the day, prepare, virtualize the success with gratitude. This is a crucial step and leads to success (EW and SC)
6 – 7am Exercise with family. The family is also a part of the success journey (PV, EW, and RP)
7 – 8am Breakfast with family, motivational tapes with family. Family time at the start of the day connects everyone (RP, PV, EW, and SC)

8 – 10am: Work: writing novels, articles, creative work (first chunk)
10 – 1pm: Work with the team (second chunk). Interacting with and serving many others is a part and parcel of daily life: this could be a training session to teach and coach mentors. A hands-on demonstration of how to help others is conducted in smaller groups of less than 50 (RP, SV, and EW)

1 – 3pm: Lunch with your spouse, siesta with light relaxing music, read a book, watch CDs (PV, RP, EW, and SC)
3 – 4pm: Work with self or spouse (third chunk: use for planning week/month). Time with your spouse in one-on-one mode is crucial for long-term strong relationship. Draw strength from one another. (RP, EW, and SC)

4 – 6pm: Teatime with family; light exercise with team, fun, and games. Children are back from school so family time once more. After a refreshing internal time (s)he may call a few friends over and have a get-together for fun and games; groups not more than 20 (PV, EW, and RP)
6 – 7pm: Dinner
7-9pm: Work with the team (fourth chunk). These interactions with others would be in one-on-one counseling, larger team functions, attending seminars, meeting and speaking to groups of more than 50, and helping others duplicate the same (SV, RP, and EW).

The purpose of our lives is to be happy. ~ Dalai Lama. Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend – or a meaningful day. ~ Dalai Lama. We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves. ~ Dalai Lama. Having given all he had, He then is very rich indeed. It is wealth to be content. ~ Lao Tzu

9 – 10pm: Journal, review results, plan for the next day, get materials ready for the next day, spiritual tapes/books, gratitude, prayer. Close-of-day activities are as important as the start of the day. Recap what went right, celebrate, and give thanks. Recollect what went wrong, learn the lesson the failure came to teach, release negative feelings and emotions back to the universe and relax. Prepare for the next day. Once again it’s time for gratitude, prayer and spiritual tapes and books (EW and SC)

Every week use one chunk of time for a weekly recap, gratitude, and planning: this can be done with the team for team goal and alone or with your spouse for personal goals. True religion is real living; living with all one’s soul, with all one’s goodness and righteousness. ~ Albert Einstein. Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value. ~ Albert Einstein

Once every year, take 2 days off the regular schedule and utilize all the 4 chunks of time marked during the day to recap and plan. As in the weekly planning, do involve all those who are on the team in this recap-planning exercise. Then do the exercise for yourself at 2 levels: with your spouse and then alone.
Wealth is not his that has it, but his who enjoys it. ~ Benjamin Franklin. Wealth… is a relative thing since he that has little and wants less is richer than he that has much but wants more. ~ Charles Caleb Colton

You would have noticed that there is no specific action in the daily life of a person of wealthy success and Serene Wellness where he is accumulating money. Once you take care of the 6 other heavenly gifts and schedule them into your days, the 7th one of financial abundance FA will run towards you automatically. Money and financial abundance is the result of successful profitable win-win interactions with people. There are 2 huge chunks of time daily where the person of success is spending time with others.
~ excerpt from the book “Serene Wellness: Daily Practise in 7 Areas” by Healer Naseem Mariam, Chennai, India: available on amazon.in, notionpress.com since 12-Sep-2018


News article on Dr. Naseem Mariam PhD (Acu)
21 Apr 2025

Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acupuncture) is a veritable Phoenix: she always rises from the ashes. Whenever she has faced a closed door, she always re-skills herself, excels, and then paves her own path. A trailblazer, with a life-long learning habit, self-discipline, and an attitude of gratitude, she is a shining light of Hope.

Her careers span 4 decades and include the following:
a. IT Software & Systems: 24 years: Systems tester at Wipro Bangalore 2 years, Software Communications System design and testing at Center for Dev of Telematics (C-DOT Delhi 2 years, Bangalore 10 years). 10 years as DataComm and Telecom Senior Engineering manager for 10 years.
b. A mother to 2 boys and a girl (now aged 38, 35 and 25 years), Grand mum to 3 girls and 2 boys (now aged 11, 9, 7, 3 and 2)
c. Author of 4 books: Serene Wellness (2018), Belly Loss Blueprint (2020), Values thru Stories (2021), Prioritize Time vs. Money (2024)
d. Healing career: 16 years of treatments and training students in Alternative therapies
e. Digital Marketing: 5 years Instagram Influencer, Freelancer, Affiliate Marketer, Tribe Nurturer
The last two were simultaneous careers of a total of 16 years to date.

Naseem Mariam mentors, coaches, and guides her teams of Serene Wellness Associates towards
a. Vibrant Health for family and friends working towards Drugless Disease-free world,
b. Financial Freedom as Affiliate Marketers of Natural Health & Beauty products.
c. Spiritual Laws of Relationships through engaging stories and fun activities esp. young children
d. Serenity with “Live life one “typical day” at a time, every day, all the days of your life” ~ Naseem Mariam. For the past 5 years, she has successfully lived her “typical day” as per the time slots she planned in 2020. That’s the reason why her tribe adores her: she talks the talk and walks the walk consistently.

It is amazing to see that Doc has achieved each one of the 5 Goals she had planned 5 years ago, during the depth of despair of lockdown days. Along with her, she has a tribe of 10 Thousand families also committed to various shades of the core 5 Areas in Dr. Naseem Mariam’s Vision Board of 2020. With their motto and clarion call being “Each one, teach one to reach and transform many lives“, the numbers will soon reach the golden 100 Thousand families goal post.

Life has not always been rosy and easy for Doc. She advises her tribe to work for 3 years to gain the skills and by repetition and consistent, persistent actions become an expert in at least 3 sub-areas of their niche. Anyone who consistently gives unique, simple, and quick deliverables which are always before time, error-free, and 3 notches above expectations … are valued, treasured, and can command their own price for their work. Therein lies the short-cut to success.

She started displaying the ESFJ traits during 2020 and today has sharpened her intuition and tries to be less judgmental, spending time and thought in meditative silences to perceive many sides of the issues, events, and behaviors of the teams that surround her.

Those who want to stay connected with this amazingly dynamic enthusiastic 65-year young lady can do so at:

Stay Connected

Instagram    @naseemmacu https://www.instagram.com/naseemmacu
Facebook    https://www.facebook.com/naseem.mariam.1
FB Group    Belly Loss Oaks & Olives  https://bit.ly/2ZMb88B
LinkedIn     https://www.linkedin.com/in/holistichealthcoach
Twitter        @naseemmacu https://www.twitter.com/naseemmacu
Website(s): https://bellyboss.in ; https://serenewellness.coach ; https://naseemmariam.com
Podcast:      https://anchor.fm/bellybosstalk

YouTube    Serene Wellness Academy https://bit.ly/2O1MThe

Google My Biz https://bit.ly/2CAOacR
Email:        bellybosslady@gmail.com

We wish Dr. Naseem Mariam Ph.D. (Acu) success and Serene Wellness in all her endeavors.